Creating a Fair Child Visitation Schedule: Tips for Divorced Parents

When it comes to child custody, it is not uncommon for parents to get territorial. For the most part, parents tend to want what is best for their children, but during a divorce, things can get heated between the parents. They may want to make things as unfair as possible for the other parent. 

This is not a good idea. The court makes child custody decisions based on the best interests of the child. So while the parents may want one thing, ultimately the final decision will be based on what is best for the child.

Parents can do their part by working together to create a fair child visitation schedule. There are many options for schedules. Some parents do the every other weekend schedule, with one parent having the children full-time and then with the other parent every two weeks. But if you have a 50/50 schedule, the other parent will likely see the child more often.

Courts generally favor schedules that promote stability, consistency, and meaningful relationships with both parents. A clear, predictable routine helps children feel secure and reduces conflict between parents.

Key factors include the child’s age, school schedule, extracurricular activities, and emotional needs. Younger children often benefit from shorter, more frequent visits, while older children may handle longer stretches with each parent. Parents should also consider work schedules, travel distance, and each parent’s ability to provide appropriate care.

A fair schedule should address weekdays, weekends, holidays, school breaks, and vacations to avoid confusion later. Flexibility is important, but expectations should be clearly defined in writing. When parents cannot agree, mediation can help create a balanced plan without court involvement. If disputes persist, a judge may impose a schedule designed to support the child’s well-being and maintain parental involvement.

California family courts focus on the best interests of the child, including stability, safety, and frequent contact with both parents when possible. Here are some common types of custody schedules.

50/50 Custody Schedules (Equal Parenting Time)

These schedules aim to give each parent roughly the same amount of time with the child.

Common formats include:

• Alternating weeks: The child spends one full week with each parent.

• 2-2-3 schedule: Two days with Parent A, two days with Parent B, then a three-day weekend alternating between parents.

• 3-4-4-3 schedule: Three days with one parent, four with the other, then switching the next week.

This is best for parents who live close together, communicate well, and can coordinate school and activities. This schedule maximizes time with both parents and promotes equal involvement. However, it requires strong cooperation and may be harder for younger children if transitions feel frequent.

Primary Physical Custody Schedules

One parent has the child most of the time, while the other parent has scheduled visitation.

Typical arrangements include:

• Every other weekend.

• One or two weekday visits or overnights.

• Extended time during school breaks or summer.

This schedule is best in situations where parents live far apart, have uneven work schedules, or where one parent has been the primary caregiver. It provides a stable home base and routine, but limits day-to-day involvement for the noncustodial parent.

2-2-5-5 Custody Schedule

The child spends two days with one parent, two days with the other, followed by five days with each parent alternating.

An example would be:

• Parent A: Monday to Tuesday

• Parent B: Wednesday to Thursday

• Parent A: Friday to Tuesday (five days)

• Parent B: Wednesday to Sunday (five days)

This schedule is best for school-aged children and parents who want consistency during the week. Each parent has the same weekdays every week, reducing confusion. However, it still involves frequent exchanges and requires coordination.

FAQs

Understanding the child custody schedule can be challenging for recently divorced parents. Here are some common questions and answers about the process:

Q: When does a court prefer a primary physical custody schedule?

A: Courts may favor a primary physical custody schedule when equal time is impractical or not in the child’s best interests. This can happen if parents live far apart, have conflicting work schedules, or if one parent has historically been the primary caregiver. The noncustodial parent usually receives regular visitation, such as weekends and holidays.

Q: Can parents customize custody schedules in California?

A: Yes. California courts encourage parents to create customized custody schedules that fit their child’s needs. Parents can agree on unique arrangements for weekdays, weekends, holidays, and school breaks. As long as the schedule supports the child’s health, safety, and emotional well-being, courts will usually approve it. Clear, detailed schedules also help prevent future disputes.

Q: Can a custody schedule be changed later?

A: A custody schedule can be modified if there is a significant change in circumstances, such as relocation, changes in work hours, or concerns about the child’s well-being. California courts require proof that the proposed change is in the child’s best interests. Parents can agree to modifications, but court approval is recommended to ensure the new schedule is legally enforceable.

Q: Does California favor joint custody over sole custody?

A: California law does not automatically favor one custody arrangement over another. Instead, courts focus on the child’s best interests, including health, safety, and welfare. Joint custody is often encouraged when both parents can cooperate and share responsibilities. However, if there are concerns such as domestic violence, substance abuse, or ongoing conflict, a court may award sole physical custody to protect the child.

Q: Can a child choose their own custody schedule?

A child cannot unilaterally choose a custody schedule in California. However, courts may consider the child’s wishes if the child is mature enough to express a preference. Judges weigh the child’s input alongside other factors, such as stability and parental involvement, before making a custody decision.

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Child custody is often a hot topic in a divorce. It can be challenging to get both parents to agree on custody, but the right legal help can help make things fair.

Topics surrounding divorce can be complicated. Arcadia child custody attorney Ashley A. Andrews, APC, can help you create fair child visitation schedules that benefit everyone. Our goal is to empower you with knowledge and clarity during these challenging times. Schedule a consultation today by filling out the online form or calling (626) 346-0114.